Who is the Victim Here?--An Open Letter to My Adult Children and the World

It has come to my attention that my ex-husband and his associates are spreading the word far and wide that I "have spent over 20 years now being obsessed with getting back at him for leaving me for another woman and am crazy". The truth is that for over 20 years now I have been forced to defend myself from constant attacks, persecutions, illegal invasions of my privacy, and more from a clearly psychopathic ex-husband and that he is the one who is obsessed with ruining my life, torturing me in every way he can, and ultimately, killing me. This is what stalkers do when they are not stopped.

Outside of Central Texas and my ex-'s reach (which it should be noted is considerable), it has become well-known what is really going on here and who the true victim is. Here my ex- and his cronies are reduced to spreading lies as their only defense for the things they do that are otherwise indefensible. Within his sphere of influence, my ex- has no trouble persuading people to spread his lies; he is powerful, wealthy, well-connected, intelligent, and a skilled manipulator of people, as well as very scary to run afoul of. 

I have said it a million times and I will repeat it here again: it is a critical life skill for decent, honest, and thinking people to thoroughly check out the truthfulness of things they hear, read, or are told before they believe those things as fact and especially before they repeat them to others! Persons on the sociopathic spectrum and those who are too easily manipulated will never care about this, but I have to hope that the majority of people in this world do care and do understand that spreading lies, whether deliberately or accidentally, causes great harm and evil in the world. If you are not concerned with the moral issues of this, you should definitely be concerned with the practical issues of defaming an innocent person, like facing civil suits and/or criminal charges for slander, libel, and civil liberty violations. People who are being victimized by lies need our support and our care and definitely not our participation in this evil!

As we begin a new year, I ask everyone to thoroughly examine their own thinking and behavior. Are you really living the kind of morally upright life you want to live and being the kind of responsible person you want to be? For some, this might involve lifestyle changes equivalent to those made for losing weight or quitting smoking. I remind you too that our young children are watching our behavior and will tend to grow up mirroring their elders, so this is an important issue for other reasons as well.

As a postscript to this, I've added some truths in the post below that I have borrowed from my friend Kitty Hundal (with her kind permission). Kitty is also a long-term innocent victim of lies, persecution, stalking, harassment, and criminal acts.

Update: Shortly after I posted this, my ex- asked to have the following comment added to an older post of mine titled "Slasher". It's actually a perfect example of psychopathy and many of the "Truths" published in the post below this one.

I used to follow your blog. I was drugged and when I woke up 4 days later, I found a key and keychain on my key ring that wasn't mine. I feared for my life more than I had in several years considering I couldn't figure how or when they placed the unknown key on my keychain.

I sold my house and fled for my life!

Prior to that, they'd monitor what I watched and read on the Internet and your blog enabled them to leave a golf ball on my property and then they would bombard my neighbor with golf balls...perhaps out of confusion or intentionally as she'd often notice the creeps between our two houses.